Not really appropriate, but I ran into this text in a book I was reading. The characters talk about grief:

Grieve without reservation or embarrassment until you can grieve solemnly and inwardly, and then finally hang up your tears and wear them only occasionally, as befits the true men of the hear. Grief is not a thing to be ashamed of or suppressed. Nor yet is it a thing to cherish. Feel it, inhabit it, and leave it behind. It is right, but it is not the end.

From the book The Gone-Away World by Nick Harkaway. And yes, that’s the second quote I get from this book.